We tend to think of vitality as something we chase, bringing more energy, motivation and willpower to push through the day. But for many women, especially those in life's transitional seasons, the harder they push, the more depleted they feel. Not a character flaw or a lack of discipline, it’s a nervous system running “out of road”.

Real vitality—the kind that feels sustainable rather than forced—begins in the body’s autonomic nervous system, the behind-the-scenes network that governs whether we feel safe, open and engaged or braced, tense and shut down. When a woman lives in prolonged stress, her system stays locked in fight-or-flight mode, quietly draining the reserves needed for clarity, creativity, connection and joy. No amount of green juice or goal setting can override a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe enough to let go.

Dr. Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory describes how the vagus nerve regulates our shift between states of defense and states of restoration, and studies show that practices which tone the vagus nerve can measurably improve heart rate variability, lower cortisol, and restore a sense of calm alertness. A 2017 study published in the Journal of Evidence-Based Integrative Medicine found that participants in a Tibetan singing bowl sound meditation reported significant reductions in tension, anger, fatigue and depressed mood—and a recent meta-analysis of phonation and sound-based practices confirmed meaningful improvements in vagal tone and reductions in the stress hormone cortisol.

Therefore, women don’t have to white-knuckle their way to feeling alive again. Gentle, body-based practices—sound therapy, somatic bodywork, breathwork and nervous system coaching—can help the body remember it is safe, and from this foundation, energy and inspiration can return on their own. This is the philosophy behind “ground before you grow”. One can’t sustainably bloom from a depleted root system. Vitality isn’t something to force; it’s uncovered once the nervous system has the support it’s been asking for.

For women navigating burnout, life transitions or the quiet sense that something needs to change, tending to the nervous system first is not a detour from transformation—it’s the foundation of it.

Liz Kriz is the founder of Holistic Harmony, a Charlotte-based wellness practice offering sound therapy, somatic bodywork, energy work and nervous system-based coaching for women in life’s transitional seasons. For more information or to make an appointment, email [email protected] or visit TheHolisticHarmony.Life.

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